“It wasn’t that I couldn’t decide, but that my identity shifted. One day I felt like a lesbian, then days or weeks later, I identified more with bisexuality. My sexuality was fluid.”
It wasn’t until she discovered the term “abrosexual” in an online community that everything made sense.
“Finally,” she writes, “I felt understood.”
Defining Abrosexuality
Healthline explains that abrosexuality—a lesser-known identity within the LGBTQ+ community—is a type of sexual fluidity.
“Someone who is abrosexual experiences shifts in their sexual attraction: they might identify as ‘gay’ at one time, feel attracted to people of all genders later, and then experience little or no sexual attraction at other times.”
Expanding on the term, the health and wellness site notes, “Labels like homosexuality, bisexuality, heterosexuality, and pansexuality describe the genders a person is attracted to. Abrosexuality is different because it does not focus on gender—it simply refers to sexual attraction changing over time.”
Sharing her own experience with changing attractions, Flint says, “I love the person, not their gender, so it doesn’t matter if my sexuality changes while I’m with them.”
